We have been talking about the dark shadows that lay deep down in each of our subconscious minds. We always have two choices with these shadows: we can ignore them and hope that they go away, or we can deal with them. As Debbie Ford successfully put in her book, “When Good People Do Bad Things”, we all have a black wolf inside of us. We can choose to feed him and keep him quiet, which means deal with our inner feelings. Or instead, we can just ignore him to where he becomes starved, and someday he will then come out with full vengeance until we finally do feed him. I believe that this is why so many supposedly “good” people end up doing things that no one can believe, including themselves. So how do we find out about this black wolf if we all have him? The only way to be aware of him is to dig into our subconscious mind and understand what is there. I have mentioned numerous ways to do this and today I want to highlight two of them: meditation and through what Dr. Bradley Nelson calls the “emotion code”.
There is much written on meditation, and I for one am certainly not an expert. If you read the Bible, it always talks about people meditating and using it as a way to get closer to God. I believe meditation is nothing more than quieting your mind for a select period of time to clear out all of the junk or “stinkin’ thinkin’” that we all have in our conscious mind. 95% of our thoughts are subconscious, so does it not make sense that we ought to at least try and see what we are really thinking about most of the time? By getting quiet, it allows thoughts to come up in our mind that are deep down in our subconscious; all that we have to do is recognize the thought and let it go. If you have some major issue buried, it will surface over and over again and you will know that it is a problem. You can do this by just being quiet or there are also CD’s available that you can listen to that will help tremendously. You will want to come up with a mantra or a word you keep saying over and over to keep your mind from wandering. Most people use a word such as “Amen”, “Thy Will Be Done”, “Shalom”, or any word that has meaning to you. If you give it a try, you may be amazed at the things that come up that you do not even remember or barely remember at all. Once you find these, accept them as a part of you and do not try and rebury them. I always expose my management staff to meditation and enable each of them to learn what it is; however, whether they do it or not is up to them.
Another method of finding what is deep is through the “emotional code”, which is the use of muscle-testing to find out what is buried deep inside of you and which emotions that you need to release. You can learn to do this yourself or you can have someone do it for you. The writer of the book “Emotion Code” by Dr. Bradley Nelson is a great source to learn the technique. You can even set up a conference call with him where he will do it for you. I have done it with him and it is unbelievable what he can come up with. He can tell you when that emotion was affecting you, and then you will be able to come up with what was going on in your life at that time that caused it.
These are just two of the many techniques available to recognize your dark shadows so that you can do something about them before they control you. If you have ever known anyone that did something completely out of character that made no sense, it was probably related to this. It does not mean the person was irresponsible; but it is more a reason of why? On a less serious level, what if you had blocked emotions about being successful and were therefore holding yourself back every day? It might not be earth shattering if someone finds out, but it may affect your income for your entire career. All that I can say is to be open-minded and try these methods to see what changes in your life.
